I showed up at a staff meeting yesterday (although I am a volunteer) at the Burning Man Project and there was my friend Jennifer Raiser (who is an amazing blogger and writer) and we each had on our matchie matchie outfits including a black bubble skirt, flats, and a patterned red blazer. It was so fun I just had to tell you about it.
Sweater: Domino Dollhouse – Size 4X – (out of stock)
Dress: ASOS Curve – Size 22 U.S.
Tights: We Love Color – One Size
Shoes: Facebook FatToo Accessora
We Love Colors striped tights in both the black striped tights and the white striped tight are one plus size tights. I am a size 26-28, weigh 275 lbs., height 5’5″ and these tights just fit me and I love them. I have included the weight and height chart below.
On the other hand We Love Colors has a solid color tight that runs up to 375 lbs., (and maybe even a little higher if you extrapolate from my weight in the prior chart).
photo: Ben Thompson
So last night we went to a Voodoo Luau Birthday Party. We had a great time, my friend was turning 39 and had a new deck with a view of the city. So of course I had to make a new costume.
Top: Torrid – 4X with a heart pin cushion from ebay with stick pins in it, and a few stitches I added of lavender yarn
Skirt: (sorry no photo, it must be in someone else’s camera) 3X Jaclyn Smith from Kmart
Gloves: Amazon – Lace Gloves – Good fit and I love that they were already laced with ribbon. I like these gloves even better and they look like you could actually adjust the size if you were larger, and they are less expensive.
How could I not love a blog that is named The Fat Girl’s Guide to Living: a life hacker for the full-figured set. This was an epiphany for me. There is a group of women out there checking things out for women my size. YAY!
After I discovered this blog at 2am, I woke up with this post in my head/heart, so here we go. I was skinny until puberty and then I started to gain weight and diet, I had boyfriends, I married right out of high school, always trying to lose weight. I did Weight Watchers, Thin Within, and then I went to college and law school. After that I started swimming at the Richmond plunge at a women’s “fat” swim (we rented a pool and only women over 200 lbs. were invited – you remember that era of divisiveness, 1982.) I was mid size by their standards, at 275 lbs. Yes. I have weighed 275 since at least 1990, per my Dr.’s records. And during that period I became radicalized. I could love myself just the way I am. Perhaps eat healthier and by then I was exercizing often with either Dr. Deb Burgard or Cinder Ernst, but it did not have to be about my weight. I had a couple of periods of weight loss, when I fell in love with MonkeyBoy and one winter when I had the flu, but the weight returned.
So that is how Affatshionista evolved into a pragmatic guide to making clothes work at just a little larger than standard plus sizes. The standard for “Plus Size” is a Size 24 or a 3X. I am a Size 26 – 28 and a 4x, as I have been for over 20 years. So the blog’s question has become, how do I find clothes that work for me and you?
But size and mobility touch every part of my life. When I was 45 years old and exactly this size and weight, it was just a social inconvenience but that is no longer true. It is now a mobility issue and although it has not manifested, perhaps a health issue. I chose a funny time to give up exercising which I have done for the last two years. But there is a segue in here, that is where the The Fat Girl’s Guide to Living: a life hacker for the full-figured set come in. I love their ABOUT page, asking questions about all the things I might choose not attempt because I am fat. I bet you have seen me do that, but you also see me living large. Which is really interesting since MonkeyBoy and I just had a LONG talk about the viability of going on a cruise next fall for my 65th birthday, longer and harder than the one we just came home from. I had thought I was going to have my knees done this winter, but that has not worked out.
But somehow I feel some relief that there are these young women out there to speak the things I am up against but not verbalizing to the world. What is the workaround for? What do I need to know about before? Thanks for being there for ME! Yep, that is why my AFFINITY photo is the lead, this resource feels like it helps me and my peeps. Check it out. Ciao Bellas!…affinity
I posted recently about the Cult of California purchases I made and that my favorite was the stripe tank, that even has a little pocket, how cute is that? When I went to volunteer at the Burning Man office this week I decided to try something a little different. I am still looking for a racerback t-shirt to wear under the shadow stripe tank that will complement it and make the outfit look a little more put together.
I am usually a match-matchy girl, or I just use black as my basic if the other colors are not all the same, but I am trying to break out of my box. So what do you think of the colors in the tank, the skirt and the tights all being a little different? Ciao Bellas…affinity
Black Shadow Tank: Cult of California, Temple Tank – Size 5
Brown Cami: Avenue Size 26-28
Black and Tan Tights: We Love Color – They are quite snug, I do not think they would fit anyone larger than I am at 280 lbs. and 5’5″
EGO Necklace: A gift from the artist, Laura Kimpton
Ballet Flats: FatToo Accessora, thrift site on Facebook- Size 10
Until recently my interest in fashion had been on hiatus, thus finding fun clothes in a size 26 -28 was difficult. So I started reading Skorch Magazine, and one of the first things I saw was a layout with Tiffany from On the Fat Walk, in this size 3X American Rag tunic. So I stole her look. I figured she would not mind helping the new kid on the block put a look together, since she looked so fabulous in it. It is one of the most comfortable outfits I have ever worn, so I will wearing on the plane to Venice Italy tomorrow morning. Thanks Tiffany, for helping me get started…affinity