I love to throw my whole heart into something. That’s how I feel about blogging. Last Wednesday when I had what started out as my worst photo shoot ever – I forgot my hairbrush, what I thought was hairspray was actually moisturizer – my series of mistakes made me feel less than confident. But I knew I had to go for it since I was working with a professional photographer from NYC, so I carried on, just as I was supposed to.
As the photographer was about to start shooting, a crowd of about 40 teenagers were suddenly moving toward us. OMG, I thought how am I, this woman as old as their grandmothers, going to keep it together in front of what I assumed would be a tough audience.
But I put my head up, chin down, and let the photographer work and then a young goth girl with dyed black hair, a tiny bit chunky spoke up from the crowd and said,
“You look so beautiful” and she smiled right at me with her beautific smile.
My world lit up, and the rest of the shoot was easy. Many of the kids hung around to see the rest of the photo shoot and seemed to enjoy the excitement of a photo shoot in their neighborhood.
When I got in the car and we were leaving the girl waved to me, and I smiled and waved back. My sweetie, who had been in the car the whole time, said to me, “Why did she wave to you” and I said, because she told me “You look beautiful.”
It was a special moment I will always remember. Her moment of kindness and reaching out changed my day. One never knows where we will find a little kindness.
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Although this month’s theme is “lace”, I am not really a lacy kind of girl. So, I chose to go with a burn-out leopard print that has sort of a lacey look. A much better choice for me. The top had elbow length sleeves that hung down almost to my wrists, so I folded them up to the shoulder seam, and ironed and sewed them in place. I suspect that because of my short arms, a sleeve any longer than this looks odd on my arm. And even after rolling it it is about the same length as shown on the stock photo below.
I wanted to see if I could make it work with both a skirt and leggings and I am pleased with each look and it is VERY comfy so I am sure I will wear it a lot. Maybe today!
Leopard Burn-Out Top – ASOS Curve Size 20
Tulle Skirt – eShakti (search for Crinolines)
Leggings – Re/Dress Regular Length Teggings (one size)
Cami – Avenue size 26/28
Ankle Boots – Avenue Ankle Boots 9.5W
To compare my measurements to yours, click HERE.
Photos: Lydia Hudgens Photography
Usually I don’t buy patterned leggings. That’s not really true, I buy them, but then I don’t wear them, so I try not to buy them. But I had to have these, and I thought I would just wear them with a long top. After I saw the photo below, I decided I needed another tartan to bring the look together and I bought a scarf, which makes me much happier. Continue reading
Every now and again I feel like I have to try City Chic again, especially since they have opened some stores in the US and are obviously interested in the US market. They have a lot of fun styles and their Size Guide says an XXL is a generous size 24. Their clothes are often too large in the arms for my apple shaped body and too small in the waist, which was true of this fun top. BUT, I think the average sized 26/28 could wear the XXL. Continue reading
UPDATE: FIRST GLANCE: Eloquii has just announced their first round of extended sizes. Check them out HERE. AND, they are on sale. What should I buy for my first piece??
First Glance: Yesterday was my first sighting of Eloquii’s new extended sizes, 26 and 28, on their site. You can find them HERE.
I have been loving Eloquii’s new styles since they re-launched several months ago.
They recently announced that they are going to extend their sizes to include plus size 26 and 28. I was thrilled to hear this! I love their clothes, and although I can occasionally fit into a size 24, in real life, I am a size 26/28.
So I have been actively watching for Eloquii’s extended sizes, and when I saw a perforated sweater that I loved and is so new and fresh looking, I wrote them a note, stating I was looking forward to their sizes 26/28.
You can find the sweater HERE (on sale).
They then wrote me a note on Facebook, telling me that they are now carrying a black pant in a Size 26 and 28, you can find them HERE. I love that they responded to my query, that is great customer service, and even more I loved that they have started adding size 26 and 28 to their clothing line. I just have to say YAY!
You will be hearing more from me about Eloquii.
I stole this look from garnerstyle. I saw this faux fur stole and I had to have it. It is a 3X, but it actually fits me well enough. It is quite heavy and warm. I do not know how much I will have a chance to wear such an amazing piece in sunny California, but I am certainly going to try!
It looks like everything Z by Zevarra has is on sale, and they have some great sequins and little black dresses. Very fun clothes.
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Photos: Leori Gill Photography
I had loved this skirt for awhile and was excited when I purchased it a few months ago. In my life I can pretty much wear a sequin skirt to most of the evening events I go to, whether it is an art opening or a house party…BUT, I just struggled with what to wear it with. I looked at dozens of tops. Should I buy a sequin top, in beige, lavender or blue? I looked at floral t-shirts that I could perhaps add some sequins. I looked at pastels t-shirts of every hue, and then one day I realized it was really a pink base and decided to take a VERY casual approach with a graphic t-shirt and my trusty black denim jacket. Sometimes you have to just give it a try and enjoy it already. So off I went to a holiday party.
To compare my measurements to yours, click HERE.
photo: Leori Gill Photography
I just want to close out 2014 with a review of the posts you loved the most on Affatshionista this year. Over the course of the year, more than 90,000 readers visited our site. So what were the most popular posts of 2014?
1. 5 Stores That Have EXTRA Wide Calf Boots!
Well of course the post you loved the most was about boots. We are not talking about wide calf boots here, we are talking about EXTRA wide calf boots. Calf widths of 18″ and bigger. And some readers have added some additional information.
2. Facebook, The New Online Plus Size Thrift Store – v. 2014
I get a lot of searches and interest about thrifting plus sizes. I actually had several posts this year about thrifting or buying used or vintage clothing. The others can be found HERE and HERE. I love thrifting because it means that someone else’s mistake, too small, too big, don’t like, did not send back to the retailer on a timely basis, can be your fabulous, maybe even favorite piece of clothing.
3. Gwynnie Bee – Netflix for Clothes – A Plus size Review of Sizes 4X+
After boots, Gwynnie Bee is my most common search term, i.e., “Review, Gwynnie Bee”, “Is Gwynnie Bee a Scam?”, “Complaints Against Gwynnie Bee”. Clearly you are interested in Gwynnie Bee, but want to make sure they are legit before you give them a credit card number.
5. Where Can I Buy Plus Size Costumes 1X to 3X or 4X to 12X
This is probably my favorite post of the year. I am part of a community that has costume events and fancy parties, so costumes are part of my life. And I especially love “Do It Yourself” costumes, which I think are the most fun.
That is a review of your favorite posts of 2014. I want to thank each of you for reading and commenting, both here and on my Facebook Page. I love blogging and I love sharing how clothes fit me, and how they might fit you.
See you next year!