Who Reads Affatshionista?

affat mapI never see anyone else do this, but I am so interested in whether people from other countries read Affatshionista, and other plus size fashion blogs. So I thought I might post the cumulative map of all of Affatshionista’s history, and I hope I will get to see other blog’s demographics.

Feel free to comment, I would love to know how you found Affatshionista, what you would like to read more about and anything else you would like to say.


Affinity Has a Full Knee Replacement Surgery

Nancy, Affinity and Katrina at Caruso's Dream, waiting for the show to start

Nancy, Affinity and Katrina at Caruso’s Dream, waiting for the show to start

I waited for 10 years to have full knee replacement surgery. I waited until I was on Medicare and fully retired. I had always been concerned that if I took six weeks off, there might not be a job waiting for me upon my return. I thought you might like to read a little about my journey…

  • 2/10/2014 Full knee replacement tomorrow. Excited, not too scared. I just keep remembering that it is elective surgery and thus a gift. I have great hopes for it making my life more mobile and fun.    My rehab goal is to be able to show up for an outdoor Art Opening on February 23rd, be it in a car or wheelchair or walker. See you on the other side.
  • 2/13/2014 Day 2 Post-Operative Full Knee Replacement Surgery: Sitting in a chair having lunch. Walked 150 ft today. Yay!
  • 2/14/2014 Day 3 Post-Operative Full Knee Replacement Surgery:  A little bored. Knee surgery is quite “me, me, me.” How am I doing. Can you lift my leg up for me? Etc., etc., etc.! LOL who knew? I moved to rehab where you get physical therapy 3 hours a day. I am pleased since my physical therapist at the hospital says I am already getting quite a bit of movement.
  • 2/17/2014 6 day post-op full knee replacement: walked with a cane today, up and down a flight of stairs today and yesterday, walked down the hall to visit a new friend and make a date for breakfast, bathed myself with shower bench.
  • 2/20/2014: Day 9 post-op full knee replacement: 1st time able to elevate and cover leg on my own. Great at walker. Physical Therapist told me I was in the top 2% of his patients ever. Going home tomorrow. Someone commented that I was doing this with positivity and grace, My response is that it would be easy to take credit for being a great patient, BUT, I have not had a lot of pain so it has not taken much bravery, just being determined. I have a higher tolerance for pain than most, from migraines, a lousy childhood, who knows.
    That said, one of my close friends just had a double mastectomy and the second of three a broken finger from a fall. So I am clear that this is in all of our futures and that doing it well is more fun than not.   Thanks. I am already pleased I have done this. Minimal pain, huge reward. Have to get my walking legs back. It has been a long time since I walked easily and comfortably.
  • (That is a sail-boat that looks like a leaf in my hear) Top - ASOS Curve, 2 years old, the first thing I ever bought from them. My go-to when I do not want to think about what I am going to wear. Leggings: Eloquii: 1 year old, size 22-24 a little large but perfect for getting on and off over my bandages. Headband: Amazon

    (That is a sail-boat that looks like a leaf in my hear)
    Top – ASOS Curve, 2 years old, the first thing I ever bought from them. My go-to when I do not want to think about what I am going to wear.
    Leggings: Eloquii: 1 year old, size 22-24 a little large but perfect for getting on and off over my bandages.
    Headband: Amazon

    2/22/2014 Day 11 Post-op full knee replacement Surgery: Home again, home again, hippity hop…walking around the house sans walker OR cane, slept forever last night, just cleaned up some visual Burning Man Project issues that have been hanging around forever, going to try to talk MonkeyBoy into an outing after a bath all on my own. (We ended up going out to Treasure Island to visit our friends, While y’all have been out there hopefully winning some clothes or gift cards from my 2nd Blogiversary Giveaways, I have been recuperating. Today, I can walk at home without a cane but for an outing to Treasure Island I brought both the cane and the walker just to be safe.) I really want to go to Caruso’s Dream tomorrow, I am working up to it.

  • 2/23/2014 Day 12 Post-op full knee replacement Surgery: Off to Caruso’s Dream.
  • Caruso's Dream  55 Ninth St. San Francisco

    Caruso’s Dream
    55 Ninth St. San Francisco

    Caruso's Dream Aerialists Coming down 16 floors to remove the covers from the pianos

    Caruso’s Dream Aerialists
    Coming down 16 floors to remove the covers from the pianos

    To read more or view a fabulous video of Caruso’s Dream, click HERE.

  • 3/04/2014 3 Weeks post full knee replacement surgery: Today was the 1st day of outpatient physical therapy and I loved it. He massaged my knee and around the wound and it felt like my knee had been yearning for it… I also loved getting on the stationary bike. Great to have my heart rate up a little and not feel so sluggish. And then home to have curry that MonkeyBoy had made. A good day.
  • 3/8/2014 27 days Post full knee replacement surgery: I have had a huge set-back since starting outpatient physical therapy. My pain level is back to where it was at about 7 days post-surgery, and both knees hurt, even with some pain killers. It has been a disappointment to move backward rather than forward, maybe a little too enthusiastic on the bike, etc. My reading indicates that this is good for my knees long term and that it is strengthening and getting rid of some of the scar tissue inside the wound. No solace needed, just journaling my progress. laid low over the weekend.
  • 3/27/24 6 Weeks post surgery: I feel like I am back. I have not been able to concentrate very well, but I was able to write a fairly complex blog post for Affatshionista today and for Cool Neon – Funhouse Productions yesterday, and I am almost caught up with Burning Man Project posts that I need to do.        I have come to believe that I injured my recovering knee at week 3 on the leg press and that it will hopefully repair itself before I see the Dr. again in late April. If not we will worry about the options at that point in time. All is well here. Only a tiny bit of pain, mainly an inconvenience to not have the mobility I was hoping for at this point.
  • 4/9/2014 8 weeks post surgery. Still some discomfort in my knee. Thrilled to have driven the car today with an Ace Neoprene Knee Brace. 15 minutes on the stationary bike, trying to get my heart rate up, still being very careful on the leg press machine. But still hurts to go down the stairs and I still have quite a bit of stiffness. Four Advil maybe twice a day or even less.
  • 5/9/2014 3 months post surgery. After a new diagnosis of a patellar inflammation, my physical therapist was able to attack my little injury and have it 90% fixed in two sessions. I still have a little stiffness, but I can walk up steps like a normal person, only down steps if they are really small. I have been having a little breakout pain this week but I think it is because I have been doing more leg lifts, etc. at home. Four Advill, less than once a day.


The Affinity Award 2013

Maria Partridge & I - the 2012 and 2013 Winners of the Affinity Award

Maria Partridge & I – the 2012 and 2013 Winners of the Affinity Award

affinity necklace

November 25: I am thankful for being honored by having the “Affinity Award”, for volunteerism, above and beyond, and having it named after me, and last year being the first recipient, given by the Black Rock Arts Foundation. On Saturday at the ARTumnal my friend and colleague Maria Loli Partridge became the 2nd recipient and I am honored, there is no one I would rather share it with. There is now a trophy and we each got a necklace that was carefully crafted for the award.

If you want to read more about it, here click HERE.

This is one of those “That could never happen to me moments”
My life is just so much more fun and fulfilling than I ever thought possible.
Thanks to all of you who made this possible, Especially Christina Pettigrew, Crimson Rose and Harley Dubois.

FYI: This post is dated because in November, every day, I write a little post on Facebook about what I am grateful for. It keeps me living in my heart and acknowledging the people around me.


Size 24+ Fashion Bloggers on The Plus Size of Me

Screen Shot 2013-02-28 at 8.46.38 AMYesterday I was included in a post about Size 24+ Fashion Bloggers on The Plus Side of Me.  Since I love her blog, I was especially pleased to be included and I am thrilled to have other bloggers in my size range to follow.  You will see some of them on my “Blogs I Love” list when I update it. Thanks to the Plus Side of Me, YAY!


Affatshionista’s First Year Anniversary

It is the first year anniversary of Affatshionista and it has been quite a ride. I have made new friends, I have a new fatshion hero, Beth Ditto and it has been one of the more engaging project I have ever taken on.  Thank you all for being here, it would not be any fun if I wrote it and no one read it, and I am having a fabulous time. Sometimes at an event someone will say to me “I read your blog and I really enjoy it or it makes be braver”, what could be more gratifying than that, because each of you reading my blog makes me braver.

The first post on Affatshionista is below, and it is a post from a prior blog in 2008 and I have also included my 2013 health update:


I first posted this in my blog in 2008 and thought y’all might like to know my point of view! I think one of the “elephants in the room” in my life is my weight and my health.I think people want to know more but are afraid to ask. I am glad they feel that way because the conversation, if raised, rarely goes well. So here is what I think you might actually want to know:

AS A BABY I was premature and weighed 3 1/2 pounds, I was very sick and frail as a child, epilepsy, asthma, pneumonia, etc. Both my parents smoked heavily and in fact died from cigarettes.
MY WEIGHT At around 12 I developed a HUGE appetite and became overweight, from skinny to overweight in 2 years. From age 13 until about 35 I dieted, binged, fasted, took courses and therapy in listening to my hunger, anything I could think of, I continued to put on weight. Then I decided I was going to be happy however I was, and I still put on weight. According to my doctor’s records, in 1990, 18 years ago, I weighed 284 pounds, this is the most I have ever weighed. Today I weigh 272 pounds.
EXERCISE I have exercised off and on all my life, I used to swim as a kid (Palm Springs, everybody swims). Stopped exercising in my early 20s. Then in 1984 or so after law school I became enamored with aerobics, even trained to teach aerobics for large women in about 1990 or so…I exercised 2 – 4 times a week, it varied…Posed for a leotard ad for large women, went to an aerobics conference with my teacher, was on tv 4 or 5 times dancing with my teacher and a couple of other people. Was always the “fit” big girl and proud of it. In 2001, my knees started giving me problems and then a couple of years later my hips started to hurt after walking more than 2 or 3 blocks, I have less stamina. I have exercised less since 2001. I still go to the gym most Saturdays, 30 minutes on the bike and workout with the fat girls. I know if I did more it would help, but I seem to be unwilling to make it happen in my life.
MY HEALTH Until a few years ago I was VERY healthy. Great heart, no problems except mobility and then about 18 months ago I had some symptoms that looked like diabetes. I was not surprised because of my weight, age and body type (barrel shape) I am a good candidate for diabetes and other problems. After some tests, I have struggled the last 18 months with pre-diabetes. I have lost about 10 pounds, eat far fewer carbs and more protein and vegetables. I still have a sweet tooth and desserts are my favorite, but I try to be conscious of what I eat. Today the doctor called and I have pushed back my pre-diabetes for the time being. All my tests are normal. I am pleased and he is pleased.
MY LIFE So, yes, I know I am fat, I have lost and gained lots of weight in my life, I am no longer doing that. I try to be friendly with food so it is not a struggle all the time, but it is my biggest foible. I do not know how to lose and keep off weight. The success rate is about 3% after 5 years. So, if you are concerned about my weight or my health, know that I too am concerned and doing all that I can to be healthy, but I will continue to be a human being that is good at some things and bad at others.

April 10, 2008 – 8:34 PM

Update on My Health, February 2013: I had my physical last month, the first in several years.  And guess what, it was fabulous!  My blood sugar was perfect, my heart beats per minute were normal, my cholesterol was good, my triglycerides a tiny bit high, but exactly the same as several ago, and guess what…I have only gained 2 pounds since 1990, when this doctor started keeping track of my weight. So I would say all in all this is a WIN!